Most people who go through a divorce want to do so as amicably as possible. After all, by doing so, you’re able to reduce the stress that’s related to the process while preserving some sort of relationship with your soon-to-be ex-spouse, the latter of which can be especially helpful if you’re still going to have to co-parent with him or her post-divorce.
Unfortunately, though, the divorce process isn’t always as easy as it seems. One reason is that people sometimes lie during the marriage dissolution process to better position themselves for the outcome that they want. So, if you suspect that your spouse is consistently lying about something, then you need to be prepared to counter his or her claims so that you’re not unfairly taken advantage of.
Common things that people lie about during divorce
A spouse might lie to you about any number of things. However, here are some of the most common things that spouses lie about during the marriage dissolution process:
- The existence of assets
- The existence of debts
- The value of marital assets, such as a business
- The parent-child relationship
- Any history of domestic violence
- Any history of or current substance abuse
- Any history or current existence of abuse and neglect
We know that it can be frustrating and infuriating to deal with a spouse who constantly lies about important matters like these. But if you’re in a situation where your spouse continues to lie to you and the court, then you need to be as prepared as possible in order to effectively highlight those lies.
How do you counter a lying spouse?
As we mentioned, preparation is key. But what, exactly, should you do?
- Countering lies about finances: If your spouse is lying about issues that will affect the division of your marital property, then you need to gather evidence that tells a different story. This might include account statements, but you’re probably going to have to dig deeper than that. For example, you may need a business valuation to determine the true worth of a family business, and you may want to turn to a forensic accountant if you think that assets are being hidden.
- Addressing lies about your children: If your spouse is lying about his or her relationship with your children, then you need to present evidence that speaks the truth. Your own accounts may be helpful, but you might also want to turn to other witnesses and professionals, like mental health experts, to paint a clearer picture. Also think about how documentary evidence, like medical and educational records may be helpful to your position.
- Fighting lies about household violence: If you’ve been subjected to domestic violence or you and your children have been otherwise abused by your spouse, then you should anticipate your spouse to lie about it in court. Again, your testimony can be powerful here, but medical records may be able to back up your claims, and so, too, can police and social services reports.
Make the process as easy for yourself as possible
Even if you’re dealing with a lying spouse, your divorce doesn’t have to be highly contentious. You can present your position in a firm but respectful manner, whether that be during negotiations or litigation. We understand that your divorce may be emotionally charged, and figuring out how to deal with the legalities of it can be even more stressful, but having a strong legal advocate by your side can help alleviate the burden and maximize your chances of successfully closing this chapter of your life.